5 Signs He's Just Not Into You and Classic Carrot Cake

I have been looking for you ever since I heard my first fairy tales

How can you tell if the guy is not that into you? 

We always want a happy ending in our love lives. We want our crushes to love or like us back. And when they do, we want to keep them no matter what. In my experience, when I was younger, I thought that love was blind. Now that I am older and armed with more experience and wisdom, I realized that love is not blind. I just refused to see back then. This blog is for the ladies out there who got their "prince" yet plague with uncertainty if their prince charming is willing to fight dragons and cross the seven seas to protect them ... so here's the list ladies! 

5 Signs He Is Not that Into You: 

1. You are the one writing letters, cards, messages
 Actually writing letter was during my generation, now it will be texting and e mailing. That time, I was writing letters to my man as thick as book and he did not respond with a nay or nah. No comment. This is a sure sign that he does not care. Sure sign that he is not thinking much about you. So what you do, you text some more and then he ignores you more.

2. You are paying for your dates 

Why is it that you are always putting in so much money in your dates, and your man ignores the tab? He thinks getting free stuff from you is a good excuse to be with you. I think that is a sign that he does not want to impress you or he does not want to invest in you. At the back of his mind, I can just hear him saying " We are not going to last, why would I spend this on you?" Also, dates should not be expensive. You do not want to be a freebie giver in your relationship.

3. He is always with his friends and it has been 6 months and still has not introduced you with his friends or his family .

He'd rather spend time with his friends than you. If he cares for you. He will allot more time to get to know you rather spend most of his time with his friends. And you have not met his friends either. It has been six months and you have not met his family. Is he hiding a secret? Maybe, he does not think you are worthy to meet his mother. 

4. You are always jealous
Jealousy is insecurity. What breeds insecurity in a relationship is when you are not sure if he cares for you or not. Then there you are, nagging, calling him unceasingly just to assure yourself that he invest more time and emotion on you. But jealousy is a big sign that you are not getting enough attention. You are insecure that he is not into you. You just do not see it as that.

5. He "beds" you.

I purposely put this last because this is the surest sign he is not that into you.

When a guy " beds" you, that means he does not care. He does not care that you will become a mother when  you are not prepared and he does not care that you put you dreams to a halt to take care of a possible baby. What he cares is to alleviate the heat of the moment. Poverty is one of the three devils. And poverty plagues most on those who drop out of school and teenage mother.

Please share you experience on how to tell when a guy  is not that into you. Please leave your answers in the comment section.

Today, I am going to share to you my recipe for carrot cake. This is always moist and it is not too sweet. I had some peaches and apples so I used them as decoration. In his recipe, I used egg less glaze but I do not recommend it to you because I though it was bland. So I included the cream cheese frosting recipe and use that instead.

Classic Carrot Cake 

Cake Ingredients:

1. 1 cup all purpose flour
2. 1 cup brown Sugar
3. 1/2 tsps baking powder
4. 1/2  tsp baking soda
5. 1/4 tsp salt 
6. 2 tsp ground cinnamon
7. 1 1/2  cups finely shredded carrot
8. 1/2 cup cooking oil 
9. 2 eggs

Cream Cheese Frosting:

1. 1 8 oz package cream cheese or you can cut this into half
2. 1/4 cup butter
3. 1 tsp vanilla
4. 2 cups sifted powdered sugar

For the Cream Cheese Frosting:

In a mixing bowl beat together ingredients 1 to 3 until light and fluffy.
Slowly add in powdered sugar beating till smooth,
Spread on top of the cake.

Direction for the Cake:

Preheat oven to 325 F

Grease a sponge pan or 8 " or 9" round baking pan.
in a mixing bowl, stir together ingredients 1 - 6
Add in ingredients 7 to 9 and beat using electric mixer on low speed until combined. Beat on medium speed for 2 minutes and turn into prepared pans.

Bake in 325 F oven till toothpick inserted in center comes out clean: 40 minutes 

Raspberry Cake

I have this favorite blogger named Tim. He is the author of the famous food blog site Lottie + Doof . He is just an amazing writer that you will always find me holed in his blog for a long time. I hope I can be a writer like him. He had won 2012 Saveur' blogger of the year and has become a freelance writer because of his blog. So, in my opinion, he is the man. If I can become half of a good writer as he is, I am a fortunate woman. But that is another story to tell.

When I was reading one of his blog from way back, I stumbled on this recipe. I am so excited to make this because it looks very doable. I think this will also be great for my husband's morning coffee. I listed down all the ingredients then armed myself with my debit card, and off I go tot the market. Everything in the recipe was available except the apricot. What? Then how should I make this? I was battling between just skipping the apricot or should I go ahead and just substitute it for peaches. I am not sure, but I saw this different kind of fruit that looks like an apricot but not really. And it is trying to coat itself to become a plum too. It is called - Pluot. I know, it is very strange name.I have to remember what it is called. Good thing I asked the cashier what it is and she said, it is "Plee- Cot." Boy, I had trouble hearing it and saying it, so she said, "It is an apricot and plums combined." When I was writing this article, I searched Google images under "fruit between plums and apricot" and there it showed the tricky name of this fruit. I also tried to looked up how to say it, but Merriam Online did not have it. So I will just settle saying it as Plu- ut or not say it at all or else I will sound dumb and stupid. So, this little pretty thing - Pluot is from the hybrid of apricot and plums. And I decided to substitute the apricots with this.

Going back to the topic.I geared myself to make the cake and everything is settled. I used 12 TB of butter and I cup of sugar instead of 1 cup minus and 3/4 cup of butter. I used my food processor to ground the almond and I am ready to roll. I baked it for 1 hour. Each oven are different though, so the toothpick test is the best for this. I am not sure if the Pluot caused it, but the cake feels soggy when I removed it from the oven, yet I tell you, it is very good. The ground almond made this cake so yummy. And it is better also the next day. As I am writing this, my husband is eating it for snacks.So please try it.

Raspberry Cake

12 TB butter 

1 cup sugar

2 Pluot

2 eggs

1 1/3 cup self rising flour

1 cup ground almond

2 TB milk

1 1/2 cup raspberry

Direction:

Line bottom of 8" pan with parchment paper

Mix ground almond into the flour

Pit and slice Pluot.Wash raspberry and set aside.

Preheat oven at 350

Place the butter and sugar in the stand mixer until pale and fluffy.

Scramble egg in a small bowl  and slowly add into the sugar mixture. Beat at slow for 2 minutes.

Add in the flour mixture in 2 batches.

Add milk and hand mix.

Fold in the raspberry and the pluots

Bake for 1 hour or test it with a toothpick. If it comes out clean, then it is done.

Note: If you try to transfer it on a tray, wait until the cake cools down so that the cake will not break into half.